The stress of saying goodbye
For many families, the next two months are likely to add up to a potent cocktail of high emotion, stress, elation (hopefully), disappointment (maybe) and loss.
As I write this, we are around a fortnight away from this year’s crop of Year 11 and Year 13 students receiving their summer exam results.
Traditionally, this time of year has always been one of high tension for those families caught up in the maelstrom of pinballing emotions that make up results season. This year, of course, that tension has been further magnified by the effect of the pandemic on the exam process.
For the first time ever, all public exams in the UK were cancelled in the face of lockdown – so those students anxiously awaiting their results don’t even have the perspective of the exam experience to help them steel themselves for the reality of their results.
Instead, they are all relying on a multitude of processes that have been used to determine whether they will exceed, match or fall short of their expectations.
It’s not quite a lottery – there is, at least, a robust system in place to put some science behind the awarding of grades for which those kids have spent two years working towards – but for many young people and their parents, it certainly feels like one.
But it’s not just the grades that are at stake, here. It’s also university places, potential resits and, ultimately, career paths that sit on a knife edge.
And for those students who are deemed to have deserved to receive or exceed their predicted grades, there lies ahead the not inconsequential grief that comes of children and parents being separated from one another – often for the first time – as those former Year 13s head off to further education in far-flung corners of the country.
And at the same time, parents – and in many cases the same parents – are dealing with the pressure and stress that comes of the uncertainty that faces the exam arrangements for next year’s crop of Year 11s and 13s.
So, it’s fair to say that emotions are running high in thousands of households around the country at the moment and the pressure is on parents – who are also feeling the strain of the current situation – to exhibit tolerance and even-temperedness in very trying times.
That’s easier said than done.
As parents we’re naturally anxious over the wellbeing of our children – we want them to do well and it’s a natural instinct to want to protect them from disappointment and failure.
We also stress about losing our children to the inevitability of real life. We’ve spent 18 years or more thinking and acting for them, making important decisions aimed at giving them the best possible start in life and keeping them safe at the same time.
Now we’re facing the prospect of not only losing daily contact with them, but also being largely helpless in protecting them.
And in all of that emotion, stress, anxiety and fear, there’s often little space for us to be kind to ourselves – which means our emotional responses are often left unaddressed; and that can trigger further problems with our physical health.
Acupuncture is a wonderful treatment to manage stress and anxiety and, in dialling down those responses, helping to prevent a deterioration in our physical health that can manifest itself in unpleasant physical symptoms such as headaches, panic attacks, skin conditions, digestive issues and sleep problems.
Acupuncture for stress uses a whole-body approach to wellness that allows our natural life energy – known as qi (pronounced chee) – to be reset and rebalanced, aiding better mental and emotional health and helping us to find perspective and rational solutions to issues and problems that previously appeared to be overwhelming.
At The Acupuncturists, our approach to patient care is to work with you to design a programme of care that you have ownership of, and to deliver treatment in a way that brings lasting benefit.
Contrary to what many people believe, acupuncture is painless. It uses superfine needles inserted into the skin to access your qi – and we also use state of the art computer technology to diagnose and treat the issues that are causing your emotional and physical symptoms.
Most of our patients say they find their acupuncture to be extremely relaxing and enjoyable – and many of them also experience almost immediate improvement in whatever issue prompted them to come and see us in the first place.
We know this time of year is difficult for parents (and children – and we offer acupuncture for young people as well), but we are now fully open to offer acupuncture services that are conveniently located in London and which offer you and your family a perfect way to find balance and happiness at a fast-moving and highly emotional time.
Why not get in touch and see how our friendly and professional acupuncture services can help you to navigate the challenges ahead?